Life is full of years that sometimes mean nothing and moments that mean everything....

Yes, Life is full of years that sometimes mean nothing and moments that mean everything.... Reliving those moments in those years ... Forty two springs ... Forty two monsoons .... waiting for the forty second winter too ......

Times to remember  .... that left an indelible mark on the soul with an ink that can not be erased ... nor does it get smudged with the passage of time .... some memories, moments , relations that cannot be overwritten too.

Some beautiful moments ... some irresponsible moments that one felt at that moment were right ... Mistakes .. irrevocable mistakes ... lessons learnt over the period of time ... Time is the best healer ... but; people left behind .... and now we are just too far apart ... miles and miles of chasm that can't be filled ever ... nor a bridge that can be built now ... too late.

I dunno why am in a retro mood but music in the background is retro too ... maybe that is making me remember the past .. a beautiful legacy for the kids .... some beautiful moments to be written about and left behind for the future generations.

Am waiting to be a Grandmom ... so that I can feel the happiness of my genes passed on ... for living forever through my Grandchildren. That's how Grandparents feel ... total recall and happiness.

When ...

When you truly care for someone, their mistakes never change your feelings because it's the mind that gets angry but the heart still cares.

A real family consists of three generations .... "To forget one's ancestors is to be a brook without a source, a tree without a root."

My speech for Grandparents Day ....

A real family consists of three generations.....
We had four ....

"To forget one's ancestors is to be a brook without a source, a tree without a root."

"No one ... who has not known that inestimable privilege can possibly realise what good fortune it is to grow up in a home where there are grandparents."

"There's nothing like having a grandchild to restore faith to heredity."

"The reason grandchildren and grandparents get along so well is that they have a common enemy."

"Something magical happens when parents turn into grandparents. Their attitude changes from "money-doesn't-grow-on-trees" to spending it like it does."

"It would be more honourable to our distinguished ancestors to praise them in words less, but in deeds to imitate them more."

"Everyone needs to have access both to grandparents and grandchildren in order to be a full human being."

"The history of our grandparents is remembered not with rose petals but in the laughter and tears of their children and their children's children. It is into us that the lives of grandparents have gone. It is in us that their history becomes a future."

"My great grandfather used to say to his wife, my great-grandmother, who in turn told her daughter, my grandmother, who repeated it to her daughter, my mother, who used to remind her daughter, my own sister, that to talk well and eloquently was a very great art, but that an equally great one was to know the right moment to stop."

"Two things I dislike about my grandson — when he won't take his afternoon nap, and when he won't let me take mine."

"The birth of a grandchild is a wonderful and exciting event! That wonder and excitement continues throughout life."

"Grandfathers do have a special place in the lives of their children's children. They can delight and play with them and even indulge them in ways that they did not indulge their own children. Grandfather knows that after the fun and games are over with his adorable grandchildren he can return to the quiet of his own home and peacefully reflect on this phenomenon of fatherhood."

"The presence of a grandparent confirms that parents were, indeed, little once, too, and that people who are little can grow to be big, can become parents, and one day even have grandchildren of their own. So often we think of grandparents as belonging to the past; but in this important way, grandparents, for young children, belong to the future."

"You must teach your children that the ground beneath their feet is the ashes of your grandfathers. So that they will respect the land, tell your children that the earth is rich with the lives of our kin. Teach your children what we have taught our children, that the earth is our mothers. Whatever befalls the earth befalls the sons of the earth. 

"Our land is everything to us.... I will tell you one of the things we remember on our land. We remember that our grandfathers paid for it — with their lives."

"Grandparents are a family's greatest treasure, the founders of a loving legacy, The greatest storytellers, the keepers of traditions that linger on in cherished memory. Grandparents are the family's strong foundation. Their very special love sets them apart. Through happiness and sorrow, through their special love and caring, grandparents keep a family close at heart."

"Truth be told, there's nothing better than being a grandparent. All our elders know this and it is evidenced by that twinkle in their eyes. Of course, they know more than they let on — life's secrets have come to them through time, experience, and patience."

"A zest for life is one of the most important examples a grandparent can pass on to their grandchildren."

The Essence of a family ....

The essence of  a family ....
Need not be a man ...
A man can only sire ...
But, a woman is the one that leads the family on ....
Takes the burden all alone ...
Gives the best of her years to her kids ..
Sacrifices it all ...
The man just walks away ...
Finds a new abode.
He takes his scent and soul with him ...
Not a drop of his ESSENCE left behind ....
Just memories to live by ....
Just a few memories ...
Nothing else.
What was good was written about ....
That is what matters .....
It wasn't written to call back the lost one ....
It was written for history ...
When I am no more ....
The generations to come shall know their ROOTS ...
From Peshawar & Rawalpindi to Pathankot ...
To Delhi to Chandigarh to Dehradun ...
From Jaisalmer to Thiruvananthpuram ....
North, South, East & West ....
From the Sire missing his Dad's shaving kit as a tiny tot shitting on a pot early in the morning ...
When Grand dad would be out on Army Duty ...
To Great Grand dad and his shayari and Gandhian principles ...
Great Grand Mom and her histrionics ....
Lots....
A whole history to be passed on ...
A family tree to be familiarised with ...
Who will do that?
There is no family here....
There never was ....
Somebody has to let the name live on.
The essence has to be preserved ....
Who will do that?

Tinka tinka .... bikhar gaya ....

I didn't keep the Teej for HIM,
Nor will I keep the Karvachauth for HIM ....
HE belongs to another now ....
I never trespass on private property ....
There is no family ....
Just me and my baggage ...
Read my blogposts as they come ...
They are just an expression of the state of mind ...
That's all ...
Not an attempt to get back again ....
I never retrack my steps ...
Nor do I follow a path ....
I create new paths ...
I never tread on ones used before....
If ever I do by mistake ....
I change course ... of course ...
Never off course in my beliefs and principles.
There's lots .... in times to come ...
You will get a glimpse of it all.

The famous Burmese soup ...

Khawsaw....
Yup, I learnt it watching her ...
Prepare each ingredient separately ....
I don't know if it is the same as hers ...
But, the kids love it....
Whoever has it ... just flips over ...
Grated boiled eggs, chicken flakes, Steaming hot soup made with the water chicken was boiled in plus chana daal and coconut (Grated) in it and pureed to a consistency....
Lemon juice... lots of it ...
Chillies in oil....
Garlic in oil ....
Finely chopped onion ...
Grated potatoes fried crisp.....
Boiled noodles....
Having bowls and bowls of it ...
I do remember ....
Never tiring eating it ....
Her haath lagaa parathas.....
Her halwa .... Kadaa prasad ...
Every year the Akhand paath on 9th September ....
I remember everything ....
Do you remember the lemon cheesecake ?

He meets me ONLINE...

Yesterday was Teej ....
I had kept nirjal fast for him ...
So sweet of him ...
He knew I wouldn't break the fast ...
Without seeing him ....
So, he came online and I broke my fast ....
With my favourite sweet ...
5 Star .....
What else do you need ...
But, for your man to prove .....
That he truly loves you.
Just that one moment was enough ....
To make the relation stronger.
ONLINE LOVE ....
For the time being ...
Till all is settled.
A play well spaced out and timed ...
A gameplan to weed out the locust....
Just a matter of time...
No show ...
No false display of coziness....
Straight faces but deep feelings ....
This is the need of the hour....
Else the virus can't be eliminated ...
So, be it...
For the time being ...
A show of strangers ...
And in due course ....
Love conquests all.
All we do is meet ONLINE each day...
Away from prying eyes ...
Away from snooping people ....
WE don't need to meet physically ....
To prove our love ...
SKYPE Zindabad ....
Google Video Chat  rocks!

Aaj TEEJ hai ....

Today is Teej ...
Have kept a Nirjal Fast .....